He’s Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo was the most recent read from my 65 Book Challenge and almost, quite possibly, my least favorite. If you’ve seen the movie by the same name and pick up this book hoping it will also be a mixture of comedic and heart-warming tales, let me stop you right there; this is not a novel but rather a dating self-help book for women.
Maybe I’m not at the right point in my life where reading this book feels valid, but I have to admit that I was slightly irked by the authors’ entitlement. Apparently all it takes to be the dating guru every woman has always needed is to be a man who was once a ‘bad boy’. You see, Greg Behrendt is able to tell women everywhere just when and why they should kick a man to the curb because he himself has already pulled all those evil stunts on some poor, wayward woman and knows for a fact that since he ‘just wasn’t that into’ all those women he damaged along the way, well then that means that the guy in your current situation is also ‘just not that into you’. Oh, and did I forget to mention that both authors work for the show Sex and the City? That must make them relationship geniuses for sure!
Perhaps it would have been less irritating had they not, almost immediately, started with the point of who should ask who out on a date first. Apparently, feminism and equality just fly out the window here and hit the curb with a resounding SPLAT! Because, according to Behrendt, never, ever, EVER are women under any circumstances supposed to ask a man out first – that’s the man’s job. Which was something I could have overlooked… had Behrendt and Tuccillo not followed it up with several more astounding declarations of ‘he’s just not that into you’ based on equally astonishing (and transparent) hypotheses.
What really saves He’s Just Not That Into You is the writing style. Behrendt and Tuccillo inject enough humor to make this book enjoyable – even if you feel it doesn’t apply to you in the slightest. Its format is another plus. Each chapter begins with a letter from a confused woman asking for advice. Greg Behrendt dispenses the advice, and Tuccillo comments on why the advice is so difficult for women to accept. All in all, it’s decently put together. I am disappointed that all the letters were fictional and not written by real women – I think I would have bought into Behrendt’s and Tuccillo’s claims a little bit more had they been from actual inquiring females.
Sorry He’s Just Not That Into You, I’m just not that into you! This book gets a resounding one star on my Goodreads account. I’m sure there are plenty of people out there who disagree with me and think this is a great self-help book. If you are one of them I’d love to hear your thoughts! What did you like or dislike about this book? What did you find helpful?
Stay tuned for Wild by Cheryl Strayed as our next read! Happy reading. :)